With the new year continuing pretty much like the last ended, I cannot get by without making a topic of the continuing madness happening in the world out there.
I have found, and I am sure that I am not alone with this insight, that this ‘outer’, external pandemic is increasingly becoming an ‘inner’, more internalised issue that increasingly more people are struggling with.
Aside of the confinements and travel restrictions, the alterations in our work-lifes and our social interactions, we are experiencing a surreal, sad state of being. We are deprived of contact, of touch, of emotions and are resorting to means of communication and interaction that happen virtually, at a distance, cold and without the human senses of perception, sensing and feeling. We are so ‘distanced’ that not even emotions, can be seen or sensed by way of facial expression, gesticulation or even speech, because for all I know, even the muffled sound of a voice through these facial masks sounds far from as cheerful, enthusiastic or caring as it would if I we were to raise it to greet or engage with someone.
In all this madness a huge amount of humanness, of kindness, of mindfulness and of connectedness is being lost.. Not that our chests can ‘swell with pride’, we have not really been ‘model-students’ at these human traits ahead of these covid times, but, now it has become even worse. No one helps the elderly man who drops his cane, noone reaches out to hold the door open for the mother with her stroller, nobody jumps to help the woman who’s shopping bag has torn and who’s goods spill out over the ground. We are that afraid to get too close to someone.
Our natural human contact is reduced and all our behaviour, our habits and attitudes are changing. We are becoming profoundly sadder, we are paranoically fearful, and we sit at home and ‘feel’ how small and narrow our living space is suddenly becoming. Suddenly, the kids are too loud, mum’s cluttering too much in the kitchen and the most precious moments of the day become the short time that we are granted for the ‘walkies’ with the dog.
By now one might think we should have gotten used to the new ‘normal’ and things should have calm down, at lease amongst us and our nearest and dearest. But now, aside of all the pandemic associated burdens that have developed, families are facing a new stressor. More questions, confusion, fear and disruption to us and our families. It’s the vaccine debate.
I hear and see many families involved in bitter conflict hoovering around the debate of whether to vaccinate or not to vaccinate. With the changeable and confusing information being shared from more or less reliable sources across all channels of media, disputes and arguments are happening that are creating deep and disruptive rifts in families. The state of research of these novel vaccines is frequently questioned, particularly on account of the lack of long term data with the use of these vaccines. They were after all generated and are now being applied within less than one year since the need arose. Hence many are critical of becoming vaccinated, while their caring relatives fear for their health should they not become immunised by having the vaccine. There are grandparents that have not hugged their grandchildren since one year; there are single people that have not had any social contact for months, and many hope that with the vaccine shot all ‘will be well and back to normal’.
It is understandable that children fear for their parents. The stats are telling us that the older age groups are subject to greater fatality figures. In an aim to protect therefore, children are depriving their parents of all contact with their grandchildren. Grandparents in turn are fearing to pass an infection on to their loved ones, in particular the youngest who they have not been able to visit nor hug for such a long time…and the debate causes this new pressure to arise that drives a wedge between the caring members of families. Both care, both mean well, but both have differing points of view, and both parties will stand firm to defend their stand point.
Is it safe to ‘immunise’ with a complex that has not been trialled long-term? Are there adverse-effects that have not, in the short trial time, been recognised? What effects are there from this vaccine in the longrun? If all people just got the vaccine, does that mean the whole pandemic is finally at an end? Will all be back to ‘normal’ once we have been vaccinated? Right now, for individuals and families, it all boilds down to that one question: Should I get the jab or should I not get it?
How can a consensus be found in this dispute? How can both parties argument and heal this growing rift? I have asked many this question and overall all agree. Research, research, research, share your fears and concerns and discuss. However, that alone offers no solace to those that care, and no solace to those that worry. The disputes are likely heated, painful and at the same time caring. The only way to come to a consensus is to make an informed choice. To learn about the disease and to learn about it’s treatment, the good sides, the bad sides and those questions that come up during the research. Carefully weigh the pro’s and con’s and make a decision that is right for you. One that takes into consideration all the variables, health history, vital energy, exposure to infection sources…ask questions. Demand to know more, from your health care provider, your pharmacist, and yes, the vaccine producers.
It’s likely a lot of work, but it is one way to put both parties into a healthy consensual agreement.
This issue of CLEVER H. brings to you the following articles: